EARLY EJACULATION AND SIZE

Early ejaculation is a problem with many men depriving them of pleasuring for a reasonable period and with guilt of not satisfying their partner.

• Don't use drugs or alcohol. They're distracting and they interfere with the self-awareness crucial to learning ejaculatory control.
  

• Appreciate whole-body sensuality. Men often think sex happens only in the penis and only during intercourse. That view is a one-way ticket to uncontrolled ejaculation (not to mention erection problems, and women with those proverbial headaches).
  

• The best sex involves head-to-toe arousal. Men learning how to approach -- but not arrive at -- their point of no return, need to appreciate whole-body sensuality, the pleasure potential in every square inch of the body. Whole-body sensuality releases tension. Tense bodies that have no other outlet often find release through involuntary ejaculation. But as you learn to appreciate sensual pleasure from head to toe, whole-body arousal takes the pressure off your penis, and you last longer.
  

• Whole-body sensuality means relaxation, but the "relaxation" involved in great sex is not the kind that includes an easy chair, a six pack, and Monday Night Football. It's the kind you feel after a hot bath or a good massage. In fact, bathing or showering together before lovemaking can help men relax and appreciate whole-body sensuality -- and last longer.
  

• Breathe deeply. One very easy way to stay relaxed while making love is to breathe deeply. The body has a natural tendency to breathe deeply during sex. But many men fight it. They think they should stay in control by not breathing deeply and making the little love-moan sounds that go along with it. Try breathing deeply. Let your breath go. Many men are amazed how much this one little change improves their ejaculatory control.

Mastering control over ejaculation:

'STOP & START TECHNIQUE'

Step 1:
Masturbate without lubricant. When you feel you are reaching a point where you could easily ejaculate, STOP. Pay close attention to the feelings of arousal and take a few deep breaths. When your arousal level has stopped significantly, restart stimulation. When you can do this for 15 minutes with only 1 or 2 stops move to step 2.

Step 2:
Repeat step 1, but this time use lubricant. When you can do this for 15 minutes with only 1 or 2 stops, move to step 3.

Step 3:
Do the same as step 1 but instead of stopping, vary your technique (longer or shorter strokes, stroke the shaft rather than the head etc.)

Step 4:
Repeat steps 1-3 with a partner masturbating you. Guide your partner. Step 5:
Repeat previous steps with a partner performing oral sex rather than masturbating you, if you both enjoy oral sex.

Step 6:
Repeat steps 1-3 with penetrative intercourse with a partner.

Penis size

can be a worry for men. In the last few decades, men have become increasingly dissatisfied with their bodies, including penis size. For many men, penis size is equated with masculinity.
In order for a man to be dissatisfied with the size of his penis, he must somehow feel that his does not measure up to other men.

To evaluate his own penis, a man has to see many others. Besides in the locker room, heterosexual men generally have little opportunity to see the real life penises of many other men, especially erect penises.

They can, however, see penises in adult magazines or movies, which are not representative of the average penis. Models in adult magazines or videos are typically selected because they have larger than average penises, so any comparison with these models is not realistic.

As with all body parts, penises come in a variety of sizes and shapes, including curvature. There is no connection between a man’s penis size and his “manliness”.

The size of a flaccid penis does not necessarily predict the size when it is erect. In fact, penis size studies have demonstrated that smaller flaccid penises grow larger proportionally, when they become erect, than larger penises. Worrying about the size of your penis can reduce your self-esteem and body image unnecessarily.

Be proud of your body, and that includes your penis!