SHOULD I CHEAT MY PARTNER? WHY NOT IF I WON'T GET CAUGHT?

The rational answer from most people would be

Stop! Don't do it

A/ You are both married. If you do this you SHOULD have tremendous guilt.

B/ Once you have done it, you may regret it.

You'll want a clean conscience and you will end up telling your partner. How will she/he feel? Your partner can never trust anyone in her/his life. Your partner loved for "x" amount of years and now you betrayed her/him. The partner will look at the world with scorn and hatred. You could lose all that you have now in a messy divorce- and the children...what will they think? All for what, really?

I share that opinion.

However, falling in love second time with attraction almost unbearable is not uncommon even with the most decent and faithful people. It may happen in your work environment with your colleague, someone in your neighborhood or with your friend's wife or husband. The examples are numerous.

The situation may be-

You know your partner..too well. It's so predictable that you can hardly stand it. This other person, is unknown, exciting, stirs feelings inside you that you thought were in a coma. The thrill of it all. The fantasies, what you would do if this or that happened. It's exciting, it makes you feel young.

So we come back to the question "Should I cheat on my partner?"

My advice if the occasion just occurs, if you can't or don't feel like restraining,...

Proceed with dignity:
1) Make the encounter enjoyable for yourself and for the other one.
2) If you are a man,don't be 'cheap'. That is, pay for a decent diner, night out, hotel room, etc.. should you need one.
3) Do it so well that you can still feel good about yourself afterward. Many of us cheat. It's not a "good thing" but neither is it the end of the world.
4) Afterward, don't go out and look for other occasion. If you do you probably were not really interested in good advice but merely in good excuses.
5) Your partner probably doesn't want to know. Even when you're in an "open" relationship. So don't tell.

Here is a news item today which caught my attention!

"Oz women have 13 sex partners

Melbourne: The average Australian woman has 13 different sex partners in her life, according to a new book based on an anonymous online survey of 2000 women.

The book, Sex Lives Of Australian Women, by Joan Sauers has revealed that women are cheating more on their partners, are becoming more sexually experimental and are exploring porn.

According to the survey, women have rejected the notion of monogamy, with older married women far less likely to feel guilty taking a lover than younger women. ...."ANI

(for complete news read: http://epaper.timesofindia.com, pg 17, July3, 2008)