BEYOND ORGASM

Occasionally I had been asked by my readers on Tantra, Sex and Spirituality.









Leaving aside the debates in various controversy centers, review of hundreds of books and the opinions of Sadhus, Monks and Psychologists, I'm writing below what I think and believe about it.

The sex and spirituality is an elaborate subject (created by so called experts) and to explain it's relevance in few lines would not be possible. Still, I will try to be as simple as possible.

A/ Nobody has come back from heaven and explained "the intense joy of meeting God"

B/ So to claim that sex is like meeting God could be debatable and in my view may not be correct

C/ However, you can't deny the fact that reaching an orgasm in a sexual activity can give you an intense pleasure, a kind not archived by any other human activity.

There could be two approaches in category(C/);

1/ Just a physical activity devoid of anything else
2/ Can we raise this activity to a "super level" to experience something divine?

Where making love can become a giving, expressing, selfless act, which is a form of prayer in itself. Through the body, the hearts are touched; the emotions opened, needs and desire expressed, fears released, security given and souls merged?

This kind of sex probably can take you to a higher level where the genital orgasm is only the beginning and may eventually culminate in ecstatic body-to-body and soul-to-soul communion. It could be an experience to the whole body, the whole being. Where mind stops.
Quite literally "f * * k your brains out"

Tantra:
The word Tantra means "to manifest, to expand, to show and to weave." In this context, sex is thought to expand consciousness and to weave together the polarities of male and female into a harmonious whole.

Now how to reach to that higher "super level"of orgasm in sexual act?

Some of the recommended techniques are:

Welcoming love
Make time for each other every week. Plan a sexual rendezvous at least once per week. Set aside an hour or more of uninterrupted time to be together. Although it may be difficult to find the time or to manage children, you won't be able to benefit if your relationship is not a priority. Create an inviting atmosphere Whether you meet in your bedroom, living room or another space in your house, creating a sacred space for each other will help relax you and bring you into the moment. Candles, fresh flowers, erotic art, finger foods and tantalizing aromas can transform any room into a temple of sexual delight. Even something as simple as dimming the lights and playing erotic music will help create a welcoming environment.

Rituals
Dress provocatively. Or, wear nothing at all. Experiment with clothing or accessories that make you feel sexy and excite your partner. Use ritual to develop intimacy. Begin your journey with a ritual. This may be something as simple as feeding each other delicious foods or sharing a glass of wine in the nude.

Some couples enjoy bathing together in order to attune to each other.more fully. Take time to wash each other with loving care. Water relaxes the body and is a symbol of sexuality.

Massaging each other is also an excellent way to fuse your energies. Or, read poetry to each other, dance, play, listen to music—work on developing new intimacy skills. Most importantly, use this time to communicate, sharing what you adore about each other. The idea is to help each partner feel loved and cherished.

Harmonize your breathing
"The only time we ever think about breathing is when we have trouble doing it, yet conscious breathing can be a powerful aid in sexual growth," according to sex therapist Marty Klein, Ph.D. of Palo Alto, California. Breathing exercises also quiet the mind and help you focus on each other. (Some part is based on “Tantric Sex Techniques to Reinvigorate Lovemaking” By Amy Painter)