HOW TO GET WOMEN EXCITED?

This may not be applicable in all cases but worth considering:

• First impressions really count so if you are in courting stage, you have to trade very carefully.
  

• The most important thing is to take it very slowly.
  

• Take time to get to know her and make her interested in you.
  

• Romantic dinners are always a sure thing, but be creative and take her on the kind of date she's never been on before, something exciting and thrilling, something to remember. Make her feel special but at the same time, tease her. Always make her aware that others want you, but you shouldn't actually go out with them. Let her know you choose to be with her but that if you ever wanted, you could have plenty of action. You will excite the female competitive imagination by being a "catch" desirable to others. Women love guys who make them laugh, if humor comes naturally to you great. If not, try and make an effort. (you can always recite jokes from the Internet).
  

• You should ignite a lady's desire slowly but surely. Female pleasure is like a... flower, it needs water, warmth and sunshine. Trying to jump in bed with her straight away is a big mistake. This will make her feel cheap and make you seem desperate. Delaying foreplay builds up and expands her excitement. Let her know that you desire her in the way you look at her and touch her.

• Touching her softly all over the body ... kissing on her nipples for that matter every where ... and of course .. sweet dirty talks .. and lot of roses ..a good smelling man..
  

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SEX: The First Timer

Understand it!










1. It will NOT go the way you plan, it is best to plan only the birth control, time and place.

2. If you are a girl; it will not feel very good - if you are a boy; it will be over so fast you won't know for sure how it felt.

3. You WILL be nervous and maybe a little scared - not necessarily in a bad way.

4. You will feel different about yourself and the other person - not necessarily in a bad way

5. . You will NOT suddenly be a woman or a man.

6. You may feel guilty that you are actually wanting to have sex - try to remember sex is perfectly natural and normal and not something to feel guilty about.

7. As long as you know you are ready, and care about the person you are with, you will enjoy yourself.

8. If you don't respect your partner, or you know they don't resepct you, you will have regrets.

9. If you love, or are loved by your partner, you may still have regrets.

10. Regrets are normal. You have lost something - your virginity - it is natural and normal to mourn that loss.
(based on-http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa051500b.htm)

NOT BLOWING WELL COULD BE A RELATIONSHIP BREAKER!

I felt an urgent need to write this post due to two major reasons:

A/ There is an alarming increase of penetrative sex in teens exposing them to the risks of STD, particularly HIV/AIDS.

B/ Lack of understanding of the techniques of oral sex can be a relationship breaker in partners/marriage.

For some, oral sex is considered taboo. For others, it's a critical part of a healthy sexual life.

Here are tips to help men and women with some of the most common oral-sex problems:

Women
Swallowing:
If you don't like to swallow semen, don't feel guilty. The majority of women don't enjoy this (it's estimated that only 25 percent of women swallow semen). Remember this: It's your mouth. If you don't like it, you don't have to. Your partner can still be fully satisfied if you don't swallow his semen.

Gagging Reflex:
If you have a gagging reflex while performing oral sex on your partner, breathing through your nose can help.

Men and women
Feedback:
Be sure to give your partner adequate feedback on his/her sexual performance. It's not good enough to say: "It was fine, or you're doing great." Be more specific so you can be sure to touch your partner in the way he or she likes to be touched.

Stimulation:
Try different types of stimulation to determine which level of pressure makes your partner more aroused. Some women prefer a softer touch, while others like more intensity. The same is true for men.

For the Neck:
Consider resting your chin on your hand or a pillow so you don't exhaust your neck muscles while performing oral sex on your partner.

Pubic Hair:
If pubic hair is a problem, sweep across, part with your hands so you can prevent loose hairs from getting into your mouth.

Taste:
Beer and coffee tend to make semen taste bitter and the more protein a man eats, the thicker and gummier his semen. Vegetarians have the lightest taste of all.

Genital Fluid:
Don't worry about ingesting genital fluid. Realize that genital fluid is hygienic. In fact, it's cleaner than the saliva in your mouth unless, of course, one or both partners have an infection. In that case, flavored or non lubricated condoms should be used to prevent the passage of a sexually transmitted disease (STD).

Don't push too far!:

Don't feel obliged to perform oral sex on a man if he pushes your head down toward his penis. Tell him that's not OK. You'll be doing yourself and other women (should they follow you) a favor. It's only OK if you willingly want to perform oral sex on him, and he wants it, too.

Sex During Menses:
It's perfectly safe to perform oral sex on a woman during her period. There is no risk of endangering your health, unless of course the woman has an infection or an STD.

Relationship Breakers:

If there's an act that's important to your satisfaction and your partner isn't willing to perform it, recognize that it can be a relationship deal breaker. Be open to trying to troubleshoot issues with your partner to help him or her become more comfortable.

Your Choice:
If neither you nor your partner like oral sex, don't be concerned. It doesn't mean your sex life isn't complete. There is more to intense joy and happiness than just oral sex.
( post based on information: http://health.discovery.com/)

"HOT" and "COLD" Sexual partners; a marriage bugbear?

Lack of understanding of sexual issues can tear a marriage apart. One of the problems that can hurt a marriage includes low or high sex drive. Therefore it’s essential to help to restore balance between HOT and COLD couples.






Well, here are few suggestions
Top of the list is to learn your partner’s language of love and talk in that language. This could be more effective than anything else.

If you are a "cold" partner (low sexual desire-this is relative; for example your partner desires sex daily where as you are satisfied with once a week):

• Identify if stress, work, kids, tiredness, finances or any other factor interferes with your sexual desires. If yes, then undertake some sort of meditation or talk to your partner or consult appropriate health provider/counselor.

• Take more responsibility for your sexual arousal and make room in your life for sex. Follow through when you do feel in the mood and note the conditions that drive your desire so you can duplicate them

• Be clear and reasonable about your sexual preconditions and requests

• Exercise regularly

• If you choose not to have sex, say so without feeling guilt. If you make an effort to compromise with your partner, you don't have to feel guilty when you say no.Celebrate your mental desire. Your willingness to get into your partner's frame of mind and create more desire in yourself is a reason to rejoice.

If you are a "hot" partner:

• Accept the fact that your partner may need extra stimulation to become fully aroused.

• Refrain from deliberately heightening your level of desire; this will exaggerate differences in desire.

• Honor your partner's sexual preconditions about lovemaking.

• Consider satisfying some of your purely physical needs through masturbation.
  

• Redirect some of your sexual energy.

• Don't confuse lust with love. Your partner's low sexual desire does not mean a lack of love. If it were, you'd see it played out in all areas of the relationship.

CELEBRITY FANTASISES SEX IN A CAR. It's the safest sex!

Ah, sexual fantasy. It has one big advantage over sexual reality: You have total control over everything that happens. You won't be humiliated or suffer at the hands of a brutish lover unless, of course, that's what you want.

Consider the possibilities. Your fantasy partner can be a celebrity, the guy who works down the hall, or your best friend's mate. You enjoy complete choice of venue: a tropical island, an elevator, a tree swing. And the activity in question can range from romantic, longing glances to sexual gymnastics that would strain a circus contortionist.

And have no guilt if you really want to enjoy!

Johansson’s secret fantasy:
Scarlett Johansson revealed that she wants to have sex in a car. Johansson told contactmusic,

“I want sex in the car. If I were in a really raunchy frame of mind wanting something crazy and kinky, the back seat would be it.” ANI

ENJOYING SEXUAL FANTASIES!

Are sexual fantasies bad for your relationship?






Former U. S. President Jimmy Carter was once famously quoted saying,

"I've looked on many women with lust. I've committed adultery in my heart many times. God knows I will do this and forgives me."

Women’s wildest fantasies as reported

• Sex between student and teacher
• Sex in public or in a public place
• Sex with a multitude of partners
• Sex in a place where a person might be caught in the act
• Having sex outdoors
• Sex, pretending you are a prostitute
• Acting as if inexperienced sexually or acting as a virgin
• Having sex with someone considered inappropriate such as a nun or a priest
• Having sex with a famous person or fictional character
• Trying sexual positions or approaches a person may not be practicing in real life
• Wearing the clothing of the opposite sex or being forced to wear this clothing.

It has to be remembered the sexual fantasies are not the same as sexual realities, and committing adultery in your heart or mind is not the same as going out and sleeping with a stranger, co-worker or with your neighbor.

The research on sexual fantasy points to the fact that a healthy sexual fantasy life goes hand in hand with a healthy overall sex life. People who have sexual fantasies are more likely to be sexually satisfied, and they even have more sex.

Minus
The negative side of sexual fantasies seems to be the emotional problems that come with feeling bad either about the content of your fantasies or the timing of them. 25% of people say they feel guilty about sexual fantasies, and it’s this guilt that can lead to trouble.

Now whether sexual fantasies bad for your relationship?

It depends on how you feel about sex and dreaming sex. What sort of impact it has on your sexual and overall relationship? If these fantasies are getting in the way of you enjoying sex with your partner, then I think there is a problem.

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If, on the other hand, you’re still happy with the level of intimacy and connection, and the kind of sex you’re having with your partner, I’m sure you needn't see the fantasies as a problem.

Also, it has to be kept in mind that to fantasize and enjoy is a better option than to keep your weird desires of sex curbed within yourself-leading eventually to something silly.

SHOULD I CHEAT MY PARTNER? WHY NOT IF I WON'T GET CAUGHT?

The rational answer from most people would be

Stop! Don't do it

A/ You are both married. If you do this you SHOULD have tremendous guilt.

B/ Once you have done it, you may regret it.

You'll want a clean conscience and you will end up telling your partner. How will she/he feel? Your partner can never trust anyone in her/his life. Your partner loved for "x" amount of years and now you betrayed her/him. The partner will look at the world with scorn and hatred. You could lose all that you have now in a messy divorce- and the children...what will they think? All for what, really?

I share that opinion.

However, falling in love second time with attraction almost unbearable is not uncommon even with the most decent and faithful people. It may happen in your work environment with your colleague, someone in your neighborhood or with your friend's wife or husband. The examples are numerous.

The situation may be-

You know your partner..too well. It's so predictable that you can hardly stand it. This other person, is unknown, exciting, stirs feelings inside you that you thought were in a coma. The thrill of it all. The fantasies, what you would do if this or that happened. It's exciting, it makes you feel young.

So we come back to the question "Should I cheat on my partner?"

My advice if the occasion just occurs, if you can't or don't feel like restraining,...

Proceed with dignity:
1) Make the encounter enjoyable for yourself and for the other one.
2) If you are a man,don't be 'cheap'. That is, pay for a decent diner, night out, hotel room, etc.. should you need one.
3) Do it so well that you can still feel good about yourself afterward. Many of us cheat. It's not a "good thing" but neither is it the end of the world.
4) Afterward, don't go out and look for other occasion. If you do you probably were not really interested in good advice but merely in good excuses.
5) Your partner probably doesn't want to know. Even when you're in an "open" relationship. So don't tell.

Here is a news item today which caught my attention!

"Oz women have 13 sex partners

Melbourne: The average Australian woman has 13 different sex partners in her life, according to a new book based on an anonymous online survey of 2000 women.

The book, Sex Lives Of Australian Women, by Joan Sauers has revealed that women are cheating more on their partners, are becoming more sexually experimental and are exploring porn.

According to the survey, women have rejected the notion of monogamy, with older married women far less likely to feel guilty taking a lover than younger women. ...."ANI

(for complete news read: http://epaper.timesofindia.com, pg 17, July3, 2008)